“Get a REAL job”

Let Me get this out of the way first….


Okay, that’s done. So where is this coming from? Well I’ve read it a few times recently  in comment sections on various sites when the topic/article was about someone who didn’t have a traditional 9-5 job. I’ve even heard it Myself before, years ago, when I had My lingerie paysite. (By an angry male, no surprise.)

I always have to laugh because I think “If this isn’t a *real job*, could you pretty please tell the IRS that so they can give Me back thousands of dollars that I’ve paid in taxes over the years?” Thanks. 😘

Define “real job”?   One where you have to get up early in the morning, drive to a office somewhere, probably in rush hour traffic, work a set amount of hours every day, answer to a boss (who may or may not have no fucking clue about the work you do, therefore is pretty fucking useless as a boss….lol), have to ask to time off (and it might not always be granted) and a whole slew of other things.

I know a lot of people who have “real jobs” and are fucking miserable. And I’m willing to bet the people who leave the “get a real job” comments fall into that category. It’s almost like saying “I’m miserable and you should be too damn it! How DARE you do something you enjoy and get paid for it.”

Why must ‘working’ be equated with misery? And why, if someone chooses to do something outside of the norm are some people bothered by that? We spend a good deal of our lives working, wouldn’t it be great if it was doing something you truly enjoyed? It’s almost as if these people think it’s ‘cheating’ in some way.

I’ve been there. Years and years ago before I became self-employed, I did the 9-5 job thing and was miserable for various reasons (office politics bullshit). But I didn’t hate on people who were self-employed, I wanted to become one Myself. I’ve always been a driven person and I live to make things happen. I could bitch and whine and be miserable or….I could take a risk and try and that’s what I did.

I have to tell you, one of the things that changed My life the MOST was becoming self-employed. I very much so appreciate My life and the opportunities I’ve had and created. But I also feel like life is too short and too precious to waste it being unhappy. Sometimes I feel like some people act like they are powerless to change their life for the better and nothing could be further from the truth. It all starts in your head and what you tell yourself….